Thursday, October 18, 2007
Reassurance
I've had fun going on with this theme of losing my mind! AND, for my dear friends Missy and Donna, thanks for the reassurance that I am not alone! So, is the problem hormonal or one of overstimulation? What do you think? I was once again very busy last week. Paul and I took a business trip to Houston and I am finally recovering. I do have a lot of headaches, and I know that has an effect on my ability to be productive, but then again the question is posed....is the problem physiological, or is it from outside influences? Which one is causing the other? Does the overstimulation of the daily life of a mother cause the overwhelming feeling and the memory loss, trouble concentrating, etc. OR is it that we feel overwhelmed and unable to keep up with life do to something physical that is a result of being 1. the age we are, and 2. having the experience of childbirth which forever changed us??????
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I can relate. I'm not sure if this helps, but for me I have to remind myself to live in the "now". Scott reminds me that all that other stuff will always be there, so I try to be thankful, even for the laundry and cleaning!!
I have a question about cleaning for you, why can't the whole house be clean all AT THE SAME TIME??? Does that ever happen with three kiddos? ;o)
NEVER! We try, but as soon as we get one area under control, someone just walks into another one.
CARRIE, NIKKI AND SCOTT ARE RIGHT IN THAT YOU NEED TO LIVE IN THE NOW AND ALL THE OTHER STUFF WILL BE THERE. BUT IF YOU ARE LIKELY FORGETTING WHERE YOU ARE NOW OR WHERE YOU WERE TO BE THAT CAN BE FRUSTRATING. AND ALL THAT STUFF STILL BEING THERE CAN BE DEPRESSING CUZ IT IS THE STUFF THAT BUILDS UP. WE CAN KEEP WALKING ON A DIRTY FLOOR AND CONTINUE LOOKING AT DUSTY WALLS BUT WE DON'T REUSE DIRTY DISHES AND DIRTY LAUNDRY. IF YOU VACUUM ON A DAILY BASIS USUALLY THAT IS NICE AND TIDY BUT IF YOU PUT IT OFF A DAY OR A WEEK YOU STILL ONLY HAVE A CERTAIN SQUARE FOOTING TO CLEAN. BUT LET THE DISHES GO A DAY AND YOU WOULD SWEAR THEY MULTIPLIED, OH THAT IS CUZ THEY DID UNLESS YOU WENT OUT TO EAT. AND THE STUFF STUCK ON THERE IS MUCH WORSE REQUIRING MORE TIME TO GET IT CLEAN. SO WHAT IS IT I AM TRYING TO SAY? ONLY LET GO THE THINGS THAT ARE NOT GOING TO GET WORSE (REALLY)OR YOU WILL FEEL OVERWHELMED AND THAT CAN LEAD TO DEPRESSION. IF LIVING IN THE NOW IS ALREADY A PROBLEM CUZ YOU FORGET WHERE YOU ARE TO BE DON'T WORRY. PICK ONE PLACE TO PLAN EVERYTHING... EVEN THE LITTLE STUFF... WRITE IT ON IT'S OWN PIECE OF PAPER AND KEEP IT ALL PINNED TOGETHER AND WHEN SOMETHING NEW COMES UP ADD IT IN THE PILE IN ORDER BY DATE. THIS HAS REALLY HELPED ME. CUZ WHEN I HAD NOTHING TO DO (LIVING IN GENESEE,PA) I WOULD FORGET THE SIMPLIST THING AS CALLING THE INSURANCE CO OR SOMETHING. AND NOW THAT I HAVE A TON TO DO THERE IS SO MUCH MORE TO FORGET... NOT REMEMBER. A LOT OF THIS IS HORMONAL/AGE RELATED HOWEVER IF YOU ARE GETTING HEADACHES OFTEN ENOUGH TO SEE A PATTERN THERE MAY BE SOMETHING MORE GOING ON. IN WHICH CASE I WOULD RECCOMMEND TRYING SOME RELAXATION/MEDITATION. GO TO A MASSAGE THERAPIST. A HAIR DRESSER FOR A DEEP SCALP MASSAGE. CHIROPRACTOR TO MAKE SURE ALL IS IN PLACE (A SIMPLE MISALIGNMENT CAN CAUSE A BIG PROBLEM). AND THEN I WOULD TRY YOUR MEDICAL DR.
AS FOR NIKKI'S QUESTION ABOUT THE CLEAN HOUSE... HAHAHAHA! THE ONLY WAY TO GET THE WHOLE HOUSE CLEAN AT ONCE IS TO KICK EVERY ONE OUT AND LOCK THE DOORS. BUT... THIS COMES WITH A WARNING!!!! AS SOON AS YOU LET THE FIRST PERSON IN IT IS ALL OVER. SO FORGET IT. KEEP UP WITH THE LAUNDRY AND DISHES AND KEEP THE LIVING ENVIROMENT HEALTHY (SANITARY NOT STERILE). I DON'T KNOW HOW MANY KIDS YOU HAVE BUT I RECCOMMEND AT WHATEVER AGE THEY ARE MAKE THEM RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR OWN MESS. FOR A WHILE YOU WILL HAVE TO SUPERVISE BUT SOON IT WILL PAY OFF. MY 6 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER GOT UP FIRST LAST WEEKEND AND GOT THE DISHES STARTED AND DONE ALL BY HERSELF (ALL WITHOUT FLOODING THE COUNTERTOP). AND SHE ONLY JUST LEARNED THAT CLEANING HER ROOM DOESN'T MEAN SHOVING IT ALL IN THE HAMPER (TOYS TOO)OR IN DRAWERS. IT IS NEVER TOO YOUNG TO TEACH RESPONSIBILITY. IF A BABY IS OLD ENOUGH TO HOLD A TOY THEN YOU NEED TO INCLUDE THEM IN THE CLEAN UP OF IT. IF TOYS ARE KEPT IN A BASKET OR A SHELF OR A BOX HAVE THEM GET THE TOY TO THE PLACE. EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO CARRY THE CHILD AND THE TOY TO THE LOCATION. THEN FOLLOW UP WITH PRAISE FOR THE ACCOMPLISHMENT. THEY WILL LEARN ALOT EASIER AND SOONER.
Do what I do, close the door and then you can't see the mess and it doesn't loom. Then when your ready to face it, you open the door with a set goal in mind "CLEAN!" Then again, brbing your kiddos to clean up also works! Love ya guys!
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